A Narcissistic Person

 

The narcissistic person will discard a friend, partner or family member because:

- They think the person has criticized them, or called them out on wrongdoing.

- They think the person has more of something than they do (resentment).

- They don’t want to be seen with a person who might not be popular or “important”.

- They think they might have to share resources with the person.

- They have someone else to spend time with, or to fill the supply they were getting from the person.

- They want to make the person “suffer”.

- They see that the person has some type of difficulty or vulnerability, and don’t want to “have to” put forth any effort to support them.

- They see that the person has some type of responsibility, and they don’t want to “have to” help or make any effort or accommodations.

- They feel threatened by the person’s abilities, looks, experience, kindness, success, values, other relationships, intelligence, money, or even their hardships that might get sympathy or support.

- They think the person will not make them money, or level up their image, position, or popularity.

- They’re not getting an adrenaline rush, or other type of high, from the person

 

Some people cannot love you the way you want to be loved because they are emotionally and spiritually frozen. They recoil from or avoid affection. You will never meet a deep penetrating gaze from their shallow eyes; only a surface glance.

They will touch your hand with their hand, but never with their heart. They will serve your body but not your soul. They can only connect with you through utility, but never passion. If you need cupcakes or a jar opened, they are perfect; if you need compassion or wisdom, you are all alone. They are only a person as society made them, not as nature intended them. They live life so perfectly but know nothing of life at all. They did everything they were told to be a good person but are hardly a person at all. They are empty. They are dead inside. They will break your heart if you let them. They are usually very judgmental. They see themselves as nice but are often mean and cold. They feel themselves superior. They think everything they do is exactly the way it is supposed to be done. They are repeaters. They lack original thought. If you challenge their slumber with awakened thoughts, they will panic and flee. They will make you feel crazy because they only believe what the masses believe.

They are the embodiment of the masses because they have not become their own individual person. Individuation is an attainment of spiritual maturity — frighteningly seldom attained in today's world. You cannot change these people. They are trapped inside of themselves; stunted. You will waste your whole life waiting for them to wake-up to the treasure of what you have to offer. You cannot snap them out of their sleep. Often, only a tragic event will possibly awaken them. Sometimes they awaken during a painful life transition. Some awaken on their deathbeds. Some sadly never awaken to their deeper potential for self-knowledge, intimacy, expressions of feeling and knowing love. Maybe you know someone like this. Or, maybe it's you. Maybe you're dead inside and don't even know it.

 

There comes a time in life when a person with a good heart, who trusts and believes in all the good, has to realize that all the good in the world can not stop the lying, secrets, manipulation, attacks and evil that someone continues to throw at them. They will always try to take advantage of the people with good hearts. Sometimes we are called gullible, naïve, or even fools. That is not it at all. We WANT to believe that people change, we PRAY that God will change us as well as them. 

If you believe in good, then you know there is evil... in many forms. Many times those attacks come from those that we know well and that is the most hurtful but we must remember that meanness and manipulation comes from within them not us. As hurtful as it may be, it is not for us to retaliate. They are responsible for their actions and they will someday pay the consequences. Ours is to focus on what comes from within us and to keep a gentle heart, our heads held high, our eyes looking up and to continue to pray for strength. In other words, put it in Gods hands because it is not ours to carry. (Philippians 4) "Let our gentleness be evident to all." Show it, practice it and live it

 

I always smiled and shook off the disregard as though making light of it would make it hurt less, but it never did. It only hurt more. I smiled through the silence, the ever changing story lines of you, choking words up like truth, bleeding pieces of white lies that offered a flag waving. But the flag was red, turning brighter, weighing heavier on my heart with each month disappearing into thin air like a magic trick of how we never happened. And everything was fine until one day it wasn’t anymore. Ruined beyond repair by what you had to do to move on. So be it.

Everyone has their way of moving forward. I’m sorry I had to be the stepping stone of all things evil and untrue to make honesty of you. Being truthful from the start could have avoided the drama you stirred with your own hands instead of using it to hurt me more. People with secrets guarded tight always point the finger in the wrong direction. I’m sorry it had to be me in the path of that blow, but whatever makes everyone feel like a good person, misplacing concern like a friend with a knife, lying. I know who I am and I guess you never did. I never knew you like I thought.

But I know this journey is one you have traveled often. I was never anyone special. You taught me that. Perfect Shot. When someone is already down and you stand there and keep kicking, of course they are going to take longer getting up. But they will get up again. I will get up again. And I will stand stronger and still have the ability to say, our time mattered. I will stand taller and still remember you fondly as the person who made me feel like I mattered for a short time. I am big enough to rise above the part where I never meant anything to you. I know what we were. No one has the power to take that away, not even you. We loved, we lost. The end.

-Stephanie Bennett-Henry

The Master Manipulator & His Pet Monkey

In case there was any doubt on the stupidity and crazy of another: I'm supposed to be jealous, right?! of what she has with my ex haha that's still the funnest thing ever  esp, to anyone that knows the "real" Matt Mancuso. Of course, none of those people are still around in his life, all except his few family members, they can't leave. You can't change the truth, it will always be the same year after year. He however, lies without hestation, it's his best quality. It sure is not taking accountability, responsibility for his horrible evil manipulating actions. Although, I tried to get him to accept and acknowledge, esp to find God. He is using God to fool everyone. Only the true clever evil son of a devil can fool the innocent by doing that! He hasn't changed for the better, he's still picking nieve innocent people to play games with. He may not hit people like his father did but, he def has the mean, horrible, manipulative, unempathic behavior traits of Mitch down to a tee. Nice how his latest victim keeps changing her responses with those oh so easy lies he tells. I could see forgetting the 1st caught lie but by the time you get to the 3rd time most normal people wise up. Apparently, not with this stupid victim. He def is doing a wonderful job making an ass out of her online infront of all her family and friends. Too funny, so predictable from the way he meets his women online, to the same old sob story about his childhood, or how all his ex's cheated on him,and are all the crazy ones. Then from the many former friends abandoning him because they just didn't understand or weren't real friends because they were never truly there for him. He has never been held accountable for any of his wrong doing actions, except for the time he caught and messed with the wrong ex husband of another former ex girlfriend. You don't plead guilty unless your guilty. So many of us women have tried to be there for him, thought he was just so unlucky in love, and just maybe we would actually be the only one to love and understand him. Haha biggest laugh, there is no one more important than himself and his big ego, no woman will ever be truly able to compete with it or save him. Sad thing is, his children have seen more women and damage then they should have at their ages. I will never understand how he logically thought after being proved wrong the 1st about the pregnancy and miscarriage back then he actually thought he could get away with lying again. Dumbass, really. The truth wins everytime against an evil pathological liar. Funny how his latest victim got quiet after proving yes there was a pregnancy, yes there was a miscarriage and not an abortion (really?! good 2nd lie dumbass), and it really was his baby. Documentation is a very truthful beautiful thing and it's all on record with medical documentation, in photos, emails, texts, etc.. Eventually, I will sit down and really write in great lengthy detail about everything. Also, the story behind The Butterfly Mancuso Project. As well as, I need to upload more of the screenshots on here too, people need to see the truth, the real truth. I think it will help others like me, but also all his victims new and old. The master manipulator cannot change because the ones who truly got to know him, knows he refuses to accept responsibility for anything or truly change for the better.  #StayCringy

Matt Mancuso aka Mancuso E Matthew of Dubois, PA (aka Janesville)

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Jessica Buchanan (Gray) of Dubois, PA (aka Janesville)

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The MM Victims Advocacy Project

This was formally The Butterfly Mancuso Project website page. I recently changed the blog name and have been slowly updating this site as well as all the social media accounts too. Please bare with me while I am relearning how to use a Blogger as this website's main platform. Please visit the Facebook page @mmvictimsadvocacy and Twitter @MMAdvocacyProj

Thank you!

Histrionic Behaviour

Histrionic Behaviour

Tends to have exaggerated, unpredictable emotional reactions to almost any incident, expressed over-dramatically or theatrically. Antagonistic and manipulative, using fear and guilt to motivate others. Uncomfortable when not the centre of attention. They can also be Inappropriately flirtatious, seductive and provocative; Thinks relationships are more intimate than they are whether they actually know the person or not. They dream up reasons that this particular person they are focused on are sending hidden singles. They create scenrios in their head that revolve all around them, not focusing on actual reality. Their attention is focused obcessed over an individual(s), taking their words and personal doings out of context. These kinds of people, are in constant need to be "all about me" and the "poor poor baby me" in every situation whether they are personally involved or not. Therefore, they are simply delusionial, unconstrained  individuals. You can do no right with anything you say or do around these kind of people. It will always be about them, no matter what. You will unsuccesfully convince them otherwise.

October is National Domestic Abuse Awareness Month

If someone has the courage to speak out on the abuse their previous partner(s) has put them through, believe them. It takes so much for victims of emotional and mental abuse to come forward. Stop defending abusers. Stop excusing them. No matter what their gender is.

October is Infant & Pregnancy Loss Awareness Month

Helping Someone Cope With Pet Loss

• Provide the opportunity to talk about feelings and concerns before, during and after a loss. Let them tell “their story” as many times as they need to.
• Share and reminisce about fond memories of the pet. Share stories about what you remember about their pet.
• Use the pet’s name…even after death.
• Provide a hug, a squeeze of the hand, or touch on the shoulder-whatever you feel comfortable doing.
• Listen more than talk. Listen in a non-judgmental manner. Allow periods of silence.
• Know that depression and anger are normal emotions and expressions of grief. Be accepting and patient. Do not take a grieving person’s negative attitudes or unusual behaviors personally. Give them a lot of room for reacting badly and not doing things “better.” Tell them that there is no right or wrong behavior for grieving. Everyone is different.
• Reflect on the feelings they are expressing and help them explore them and the reality of the death. Know that they may have emotional set backs. Know that they will always grieve the loss but will learn to live with it.
• Say, “There’s nothing I can say right now to make you feel better. I wish I could. I want you to know that I am here for you.” Mean what you say. Let them know you are there for them. Be there for them in the days as well as weeks, months, and years following the death. Ask them how they are doing.
• Cry with them if it feels natural to you.
• Help them celebrate the life of the one they have lost. Offer suggestions to help them through their grief: give them ideas for ways to memorialize their pet. Help those who are in the process of grieving to develop the rituals they need to get through those early difficult times: light a candle each day, display photos, clay paw print, fur clipping, write a love note to the pet, plant a flower garden, make a garden stone mosaic, keep the pet’s tags on their keychain, keep a journal, make a photo album.
• Send a condolence note with personal comments about the pet and how he or she will be missed.
• Send flowers, a thoughtful gift, or just give them a text/phone call. Let them know you are thinking of them.
• Send a donation in the deceased pet’s name to an organization that benefits animals.

Hope.